*You are about to embark upon a most significant journey in your lifetime! ………
What exactly are your plans?
Reaching into your thoughts and dreams for this “special” day, the following comes to mind.
May I refer to the movie, “Bride Wars” where two brides, starring Kate Hudson and Ann Hathaway, had similar dreams, to be married in an upmarket venue, with all the trimmings. That’s one set of dreams…..
Perhaps you and your fiancé/ee have other aspirations….. An outdoor wedding might be your thing, maybe at the beach where you met…… In a glorious garden, with the azure blue sky as your backdrop, shrouded in emerald cover of trees and shrubs……. perhaps later with a picnic style reception….
Another alternative …. A home wedding, in your sanctuary, which you have furnished together and made home, perhaps with a catered reception in the back garden, under a marquee…..
Maybe you prefer a themed wedding, after all you met at the cinema watching “Star Wars”… “Shrek and Fiona”, “Sir Lancelot and Guinevere”….. “ Lady Marion and Robin Hood”…
Regardless of your choice, whether it is determined by your budget, your preferred theme, your venue, it is really most important that your wedding day should reflect you and your fiancé/ee.
Your personal style should shine through and be reflected in the way you dress, what you say and how you design your wedding. “Incorporate elements that you and your partner love, which will signify you as a couple” (Huffington Post.. Ariane Fisher). Raquel Kelly says “Style isn’t created. It’s who you are”… Let your everyday life and manner inspire your wedding plans.
Wouldn’t it be delightful to note feedback about your “special day” to be along the lines of …. “Oh yes I can see “Mary and Tom here… that is exactly them, this is typical of the way they would celebrate their special day”.
Be true to you… Don’t be influenced by what you see out there … which happen to be other people/media versions of what a wedding day should be or is. Let your choice of wedding be what’s right for you, what you will look back on over the years with fond memories, having no regrets….such as … about the seasonal trend that in years to come will seem crazy or “what were we thinking?”…
Remember your guests……..made up of the people in your lives that are privileged to be called your family and friends….. want to share in your happiness and will support you in whatever fashion you have chosen to celebrate your love and commitment to each other.
Oh, I thought I would also add the following….
So what if this is your second, third or whatever number marriage. Please, please do not say, “I’ve been married before so……”
Remember this is another life journey, on a new path, changing your direction. In light of this… turn the page to reveal a new chapter and give it all your renewed energy and interest and treat it as a 1st page in your life story. Celebrate it your way, unique to you both, as indeed you are wiser by your experiences and this time round you know exactly what you want and prefer.
*When I refer to “you”, naturally I am addressing the “couple”
© J Butler-Grech